فلسطين asked:


My best friend is in the Army and she’s leaving on Tuesday. I want to take her out for a fun, relaxing day. Have any ideas on what we should do?

Jen Renee asked:


I have this buddy that I’ve known two years, but we didn’t start hanging out outside of work until a year of knowing each other. We would go out with two other friends until two months ago when I made a move and one on one dinners started. A lot of things have progressed and everyone I know is convinced he likes me, but I’m still not sure. He hasn’t kissed me yet, but he spends hours and hours with me, always pays for dinner, he’s always finding a reason to touch me, always suggesting things we should do, etc. So we’re not dating per se, but he’s constantly making little moves but nothing major. My friends say it’s because of the fact that we started out on a friend level and he’s not sure what I’m thinking and is afraid to mess it up. So right now he’s testing me out and waiting for me to make the move.

Last weekend I mentioned that I’ve never celebrated new years and he said, “Do you want to celebrate with me?” I also told him how I was going to be down in Florida but obviously didn’t go, and now he wants to do that with me as well. He told me he’ll call up his friend down there and figure some things out and let me know. He told me twice that his two week vacation starts Dec 23.

Knowing him, I’ll probably have to text/call him and ask what’s going on. While I understand that I’m the planner and that he’s the spontaneous “let me know the day before” person, I don’t get it. Why make plans but not follow through to confirm but instead want me to do that? Is he really unsure of what I’m thinking/feeling and wants that to all be in my hands so he doesn’t get hurt? He has to be interested in actually going out on new years and going to Florida if it was his idea and he made a point to say when he was off and how he’ll research some stuff on the internet first.

During our last dinner he also mentioned the fact that I’ve only been out drinking with him once. Once again, I have a feeling I’ll have to contact him first because he seems to want me to make all the moves. Should I just text him and ask him if he wants to go out drinking later this week or something else?

I don’t think this is a “he just wants to be with you whenever he feels like it” situation because he never ignores me, always follows through with plans, and he’s always the one to be like, “let’s do this.” In fact we had a discussion about other people we know and he made sure to bring up the fact that he’s never let me down (which is true).

Livvy R asked:


I’ve always kind of wondered this. People are always telling me to look at the brightside of things. To be greatful for all that I have, but I can’t help wondering how it would be if I had a much simpler life.
My parents are the busy type of people. Dad is a screenwriter, and mom is a fasion designer, so they’re always going on business trips or spending hours locked up in their office. Once in a while my family and I will go out for dinner and the entire time my parents spend it on there phones, day planners, etc.
I go to a private school in D.C which is far from my home in LA. So I don’t go home very often. Only for specail holidays or occasions. I do however go to New York, Paris, Maui Hawaii, Necker Island, Aspen Colorado, South Beach Miami, and many other fave vacation spots, as often as I can.
one of the good points of the priveleged life…you can get a pass off campus whenever. all you need is a little bribing and parents that could get the dean fired with the snap of their fingers
Anyways although I do have two sisters on living on campus with me, I almost never see them. And i wish i was closer. how can i bring us closer?
and for christmas holiday my family and a bunch of relatives are gonna be staying in Aspen. How can I make sure that we actually spend time together?

alliecatcool asked:


ok so are you a good planer? Here is the deal! Me and my friend are going to have a sleepover and I want to do something super fun. And I am not to great at planing thingss out so I ws wondering ifsomebodyy could do it for me. Like plan it from around when I wake up at like 11:00am to whenever we are going to sleepprobablyy around 12:00 at night. Well to give you some ideas I live near a creek and a park…we are tomboys but not like super tomboys…we are both girls…we like to play truth or dare…I live in MN…I have a dog,lol…I have a cp in my room it is a laptop…we can be driven someplace but nothingexpensivee…we like to makebraceletss.
Any other questions just ask me! Sorry if this is a lot to ask but still.

I wont be having my sleepover for like 3 days I’d like it soon. Thanks so so so so so mutch!!!

And also whoever gives me the most fun and exsiting plan I will do whatever they want or somthing like that…I don’t know!

Lala asked:


A friend’s birthday is coming and one of us 4 buddies decided that ”we” will have a really expensive meal for the birthday party despite knowing that i have financial problems.Even after i told her (the birthday ‘planer’) i did not have the money,she went ahead and called the birthday girl and the birthday girl said yes to the meal.
They are clearly aware of my financial problems,as well as seen me skip at least 3 lunches while hanging out with them.
For awhile now,i noticed from their facebook photos that they have been hanging out quite alot,without ever inviting me!
Well,it could jolly well be the lack of money factor,but common,forgetting that we have a date on that day and make plans with their project work group on that day then not attending the project work cos it was canceled due to someone falling sick and not telling me at all till i called very much later is…….

Question : Should i just drop out of their lives?
Is this over thinking it or?…
Thanks for the comments people!
And well uhm about being used,i have no idea how i am being used if i was ever used!We all were friends in school but i was the only one that took different subjects,so i guess they cant copy my homework or something.
And as for those 3+ lunches i missed,i only had one spoonfull of noodles to try out how good they were > <
They arnt intending to split for my meal!
And yes i know,it's not my birthday,but it sorta sucks to be the only one there not eatting again!And i suck expressing my feelings face to face > <

Z asked:


Well, yesterday was C day so me and my friends had chrous from 12:25 p.m. – 1:00 p.m. . So, when it was time to go, somebody said the teacher told us to go. So, I went, and so did all my other friends. After we got into the room, 3 minutes later our teacher walks in. She tells us to come to her. When we go to her, she is like “Did I tell any of youb to come down here?” So, we were like “but you told us to go.” And she said, “No I Didn’t. “All 6 of you have Detention tomorrow” So, then we went to detention today and all of us got this big long stamp in our planners that said -DETENTION – BEHAVIOR -. We Didn’t even do anything wrong! Do you think she was fair?

YeahRight asked:


This is a long story, but please try to read it! I met my best friend,Sara,when I was in 8th grade. She already had friends she was close with,one of them was with her since they were 2 yrs old and her name is Mandy. She’s really nice and she’s Sara’s best friend. Mandy is a really close friend of my cousin Nora,whom she also met in 8th grade.Recently a friend of Sara called Brittany went to Mandy and Nora and told them that she wanted to give sara a surprise b-day, and all of them discussed this issue without even telling me about it. And the most annoying thing is that my cousin nora, isn’t even really close to sara like me, and she didn’t tell me about the plan. When I knew about the b-day idea from my friend may, I called nora yesterday and asked her y didn’t she tell me about it since she was my cousin and all,and she said that I was going 2 b invited 2 the party. I’m supposed 2 b one of the party planners not the guest cuz sara’s my BEST FRIEND!find the 2nd part plz!
No there is no part 3! But I can’t stop worrying even though I know I didn’t do anything but I’m really mad!

Sara asked:


Well I sit next to this girl in science class (teacher forces us to). And since this is a fancy private school thingo I go to we each have compulsory school diaries (planner things where you’re supposed to note your homework down in, but everyone just uses it to draw in). Anyways, I was really bored and lazily wrote “Michelle is a loser haha” on one of the pages in her diary. It was in tinyass print too. Then at break she comes up and she’s like (she’s really obsessed with being neat and stuff remember that) “WHY DID YOU WRITE THAT I’M A LOSER?!?!” I replied “Chill, it’s just a joke.” Then she’s like “You DON’T write in people’s diaries that they are losers, you wrote it in PEN, HOW DO I GET IT OFF” and I said “There is an invention called white-out” and she makes this huge deal about how she doesn’t have white-out (gasp). Then for the rest of the day she pulls annoying pranks on me, like when I’m slinging my backpack over my shoulder she tugs at the strap and sends me toppling to the ground, kicks the back of my chair so freaking hard that I nearly fall off, steals my stuff and doesn’t give it back for about 20 mins, immature jerk stuff like that. She’s still continuing it. Man…

jenanderz asked:


I have been helping my friend plan her wedding. I am not a bridesmaid, but simply just the wedding planner. It has been exhausting. her and her fiance have been like children trying to get this process complete. I have had to hold their hands through every damn little thing and they are both completely preoccupied with details that mean close to nothing. I have sacrificed so many weekends and so much of my personal time to walk them through this process, because if it was up to them, so much wouldn’t be done. they are very grateful to me for all the help I’ve given them and recognize my value to their planning process. the fact is that i’m completely and utterly exhausted. the bachelorette party is this weekend and the wedding next weekend. I’m so damn tired of this whole wedding process that I really don’t want anything to do with it until the rehearsal and day of. I’ll go to the rehearsal, but don’t want to attend dinner. And I will attend the wedding, do my job and go home. I just want to cut myself off from the whole process. The bachelorette party is going to be so silly and over the top that the thought of it leaves me even more exhausted. And to add to all my responsibilities of the day, the Maid of Honor that the nerve to ask me to bring food for the party. I respectfully declined. I’m responsible for so much more than any of the wedding party could possibly imagine…they can bring the food themselves. I rsvp-ed that I’d go and if I didn’t go, it would really break my friend’s heart. I guess I’m being a little selfish, but I just can’t help how I feel.

Any thoughts?

Goldy asked:


Ok, my sister-in-law got married and put my whole family in her wedding and did not include me. Our family is really small it’s just my husband my three kids her and her mom. All these years and it’s only been the seven of us. She did ask me to read a peom a month before the wedding, but I suffer from anxiety, so I told her I could not do that. Well wedding day came and I felt so hurt and left out because I felt as if after 13 years being married to her brother she still did not see me as family. My husband and son gave her away because she doens’t have a relationship with her dad. Her mom raised my husband and her all on own. We have always gotten along great, until now. Anyway, it was time to take pictures and I could not see myself standing next to any of them because my feeling hurt so much I felt as if I would cry. So I told her wedding planner I can’t take pictures. Well, this caused so much drama that I didn’t think would happen. I was just trying to stay away from them because I could not control my stupid feelings. I did end up being part of the photograph. Well, she said all her friends and her husbands family heard what happend and now she is so imbarrassed that I was acting like a child. When I called to apologize she was so mad she called me names and hung up on me. I feel horrible that I took attention away from her, but I could not help it. I did dance and participate in everything else in the wedding. I feel like I need forgiveness. I wrote her a letter and said I’m sorry again after she hung up on me, because the apology on the phone did not go so well. Was what I did that horrible? I feel like I lit her wedding on fire and it was ruined. When it wasn’t she had a beautiful wedding. Now I feel like this horrible person and I feel so stupid for doing that on her wedding day. It’s been four months now and she is still giving me the cold shoulder, and keeps calling me names like a brat and a child. I feel so bad and can’t stop thinking about it. Should I just leave her alone, seems like she will hate me forever. Oh she’s 40 and I’m 32. When you aswer this question please tell me how old you are? Thanks.