Do you think i am over thinking it or?
Lala asked:
A friend’s birthday is coming and one of us 4 buddies decided that ”we” will have a really expensive meal for the birthday party despite knowing that i have financial problems.Even after i told her (the birthday ‘planer’) i did not have the money,she went ahead and called the birthday girl and the birthday girl said yes to the meal.
They are clearly aware of my financial problems,as well as seen me skip at least 3 lunches while hanging out with them.
For awhile now,i noticed from their facebook photos that they have been hanging out quite alot,without ever inviting me!
Well,it could jolly well be the lack of money factor,but common,forgetting that we have a date on that day and make plans with their project work group on that day then not attending the project work cos it was canceled due to someone falling sick and not telling me at all till i called very much later is…….
A friend’s birthday is coming and one of us 4 buddies decided that ”we” will have a really expensive meal for the birthday party despite knowing that i have financial problems.Even after i told her (the birthday ‘planer’) i did not have the money,she went ahead and called the birthday girl and the birthday girl said yes to the meal.
They are clearly aware of my financial problems,as well as seen me skip at least 3 lunches while hanging out with them.
For awhile now,i noticed from their facebook photos that they have been hanging out quite alot,without ever inviting me!
Well,it could jolly well be the lack of money factor,but common,forgetting that we have a date on that day and make plans with their project work group on that day then not attending the project work cos it was canceled due to someone falling sick and not telling me at all till i called very much later is…….
Question : Should i just drop out of their lives?
Is this over thinking it or?…
Thanks for the comments people!
And well uhm about being used,i have no idea how i am being used if i was ever used!We all were friends in school but i was the only one that took different subjects,so i guess they cant copy my homework or something.
And as for those 3+ lunches i missed,i only had one spoonfull of noodles to try out how good they were > <
They arnt intending to split for my meal!
And yes i know,it's not my birthday,but it sorta sucks to be the only one there not eatting again!And i suck expressing my feelings face to face > <
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i thin it overthinking ur choice to make drop or stay badboyyy41
I say stay with them A little longer 2 c if they’ll change. (give them A second chance.) If you’ve seen they haven’t tried 2 stop their ways then drop em. .•°★Rae Rae☆.•.
well i think u should just drop out of their lifes… they are using u… :s… goodluck.. and i know what i am saying, i love eating, and if my guy friends wanted to hangout with me they knew already they needed to take me to dinner not only me but my friends… and it make me feel really good to go to expensive places!!
… babygirl
You’re over thinking it. Just because you are having financial problems doesn’t mean they should change their plans to fit you, what if one of them planned to pay for you or what if they just forgot about it. They aren’t doing it on purpose. And before you just drop our of their life you need to talk to them about it. They might not even know you’re feeling like this. Maybe they think your “financial issues” are just an excuse because you just don’t want to go. Other wise your friends are your friends they aren’t doing thing to hurt you intentionally. Good luck and talk to them about it, I’m sure you’re just insecure right now b.c of your finances. justi13
I spent years being neglected and left out by my friends. At first I really didn’t get it, I invited them places, never left them out. It wasn’t until the end of my senior year I figured it out. And I figured it out the hard way. I was always out inviting them in a group. I liked them but I didn’t tell anyone my secrets, emotional problems, ect. There is a big difference between doing school work with people, telling them your pet died, or that your having financial problems and telling them your new crush, doing silly things, when you have a fight with a friend, sharing your life with them. So do you trust them? I unfortunately did not with most of my friend and never stepped into that abyss. I did open up to one that I loved dearly but was my first friend to get into a bad fight with. They said “friends are better kept than pushed away”. Ikainica Shadow-Creature Amaya